I was recently having a conversation with a girlfriend of mine and she asked whether I still count the number of partners I have had or is that something you do when you're young? That was a good question which fueled several minutes of in depth conversation. We all know of the double standard: Men can have a million partners and it is praised by the masses.....Women on the other hand, its a different story. We are considered slutty, "loose" and/or promiscuous. Because of that many of us have had to adapt in order to survive in this "Man's World". My friend and I decided that unless you are a very good girl, newbie to sex or a prude, you have lied about the "number" of partners you have had. (If you don't agree, just remember this is my OPINION.) Okay maybe "lied" is too strong and "omitted the truth" might work better, either one works just fine for me. In any case we spoke about several ways of "calculating" your Number.
Here is what we came up with:
1. If you are under 18 you should still be able to name/tabulate how many with no problems.
2. Over 18?
- You can round off your "actual" number. (if you remember it...lol)
- Come up with what you think is an "acceptable" amount for your age range and stick to that number for a while.
- Start with the age you lost your "innocence" and add 2 partners for each year since then that you were single.
- Start with your "actual" number and subtract all of the following: 1 night stands, waste of times, bad performers and wish you never mets.
- Use your "actual" number and embrace it like Samantha from Sex and the city.
